“Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man… It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.” C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
She was evil at heart, vain, self-absorbed and wicked. She owned a magic mirror that she would daily ask of it, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?” Day in and day out the mirror would reply,” You, my Queen, are the fairest of them all.” This pleased the queen. She knew that her magical mirror could speak only the truth. The response remained the same until one morning the mirror gave a different answer, “You, my queen, are fair; it is true. But Snow White is the fairest of them all”…and thereby is the tale.
Google has several definitions of the word mirror. The shorter version being a piece of glass that reflects an image (the longer version includes wordings like rays). We all have mirrors in our lives like the Evil Queen only they are hanging in the walls of our lives.Not on a solid house wall or living in our purses. We turn just about everything around us into mirrors. From friends pay checks, fashion magazines, the guy in Iron man or Thor, the family next-door and the nerd’s grades. A mirror is something or someone who you look at and want the very same thing you perceive in your life. The pay check, the flawless body, the perfect family, the impressive children, the beautiful grades. A mirror is that thing we look into and see ourselves wanting in comparison. A mirror is that thing or that someone who makes you feel deficient, not good enough, not worthy enough and not relevant enough. I will take it a little further and say most if not all of us have had mirror moments in our lives. And if we dared to be honest enough we would realize that we don’t really want to change how we look, the grades we get, our families, the way we dress, the car we drive(in fantasy or real life) and the amount of money we get for ourselves. We desire that we change half of who we are so that we can glory in the admiration and praise of others. So we end up living half our lives with the obsession of changing who we are often into illusive images the world tells us is beautiful and perfect. Then we live the other half of our life discontent, jealous and self-loathing and an entire lifetime slips out of our hands…just like that.
NOT OF THIS WORLD
2nd Corinthians 10:12
New Living Translation
Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important they are! But they are only comparing themselves with each other, using themselves as the standard of measurement. How ignorant!
12 Not that we [have the audacity to] venture to class or [even to] compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely.
2nd Corinthians 10:18
For [it is] not [the man] who praises and commends himself who is approved and accepted, but [it is the person] whom the Lord accredits and commends. – Amplified Bible
I began to understand the concept of relationship in Christianity a few years ago and one of the phrases that kept coming up was as Christians we are not designed to use the principles of the world to operate in life. It’s one of those things I heard but dint fully grasp until recently. The Bible in the Book of Romans 12:2 reinforces this statement and talks about being transformed by the renewal of the mind. We lay aside what we have previously known and take up the truth from the Word of God. Most of the time when we have mirror moments or mirror experiences we usually compare ourselves to what the world tells us is beautiful or perfect. We usually take up the principles that good grades means success in life, we take up the images of the world’s standard measurement of beauty, slender but not too much, a killer smile and just enough curves at the right places for females or a debonair for males with a sinewy build with just the right touch of poise…not too much and not too little. We become frantic looking and goggling for 10 ways to become rich. Beloved one of the things we need to realize is that the world has no permanent standard. The reason why Bill Gates is the richest man in the world is because no one else has a net worth as high as his, but once somebody else realizes a better net worth they become the richest. There is no rich enough or beautiful enough or perfect enough in the world. The verse above tells us ours is not to compare. Ours is to look to Jesus to perfect us.
Do you see what this means—all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running—and never quit! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God. When you find yourselves flagging in your faith, go over that story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into your souls!-Bible the Message
The lie that mirrors feed us and we continually buy into is that we need a better rendition of ourselves as we compare ourselves to others. It is not a better version of self that we need but a proper look at Jesus. God from the very beginning designed us to be conformed to the image of His son. Ours is to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus (looking unto) the author and perfecter of our faith. Notice the word is looking not look; it’s not a one-time glimpse at Jesus or a Sunday acknowledgement. A thing put on and off. Life is not made up of Sundays. It’s a continual dependence on Jesus. It is looking away from other objects to one, only one, and looking on that one with a steady, fixed, intent gaze. And the object we are to look at, you will observe, is a PERSON,—not a doctrine, not an abstract theological dogma, but a living Person; and that Person is Jesus the Son of God.
Are you tired of feeling inadequate? Of not measuring up? Of not being good enough? Trust, treasure, delight and hope only in Jesus for everything in your life. Am not promising it will be an instant change or that you won’t from time to time feel like measuring yourself up with others. You will but what remains true is that the more we keep your eyes fixed on Jesus the more we are conformed to His image and in His presence there is fullness of Joy(psalms 16:11). In Him we find our peace (Ephesians 2:14), strength (psalms 28:7), satisfaction (Philippians 3:8) and hope. In Him we are fully satisfied and just in case it slipped your mind yes God loves you.
your real, new self (which is Christ’s and also yours, and yours just because it is His) will not come as long as you are looking for it. It will come when you are looking for Him. Does that sound strange? The same principle holds, you know, for more everyday matters. Even in social life, you will never make a good impression on other people until you stop thinking about what sort of impression you are making. The principle runs through all life from top to bottom, Give up yourself, and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it. Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favorite wishes every day and death of your whole body in the end submit with every fiber of your being, and you will find eternal life. Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.” ― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity